Ahh hormones. Our bodies couldn’t function without them, but when they’re out of sync, they can cause mood changes you would much rather do without!

These can often result in friction during a relationship. Sometimes minor, sometimes severe. Unfortunately, they’re just part and parcel of life, but there are ways to mitigate their effects and reduce the impact they have on your relationship.

Always keep one thing in mind:

Life would be easier if we could turn mood swings off like a light-switch, but they can often swallow you whole and feel impossible to fight against. This is to be expected, as hormones form the basic chemical foundation of your brain and are an incredibly powerful force.

However, when interacting with your partner, one important question to always keep in mind is this:

“How would I react if I was in their shoes?”

Any partner should always be as understanding as possible in any situation, but during mood swings, how would you feel if they were acting towards you in the exact same way you are acting towards them?

By asking yourself this question, and giving yourself an answer, you may be able to build a better understanding of the impact it has on your partner. It won’t turn off your emotions, but it will help you to see the situation from both sides and may make it easier to channel those emotions elsewhere.

It’s not always about hormones

Any human being, regardless of hormones, can be fragile during times of great change. A big, positive event can leave you overwhelmed with excitement where your mind is frantic with a thousand thoughts. However, a sudden shock can leave you feeling alone and helpless without direction.

In such situations, it’s important to remember that your partner is someone who can help you in major ways. They may well understand you better than anyone else, so they are a resource of support and advice which should be used wisely.

If you need space, be clear and constructive in how you put that across. Make sure they know that it’s not about them, it’s about you. Many problems can arise simply because you partner misunderstands your behaviour, so it’s best to make it clear instead of letting them try to figure it out on their own. Without that, they could come to the wrong conclusion.

Communicate clearly

This may be considered cliché by some, but it’s incredibly important. Any negative response to a situation can be amplified ten-fold if your partner does not understand how you feel or why you feel that way. The same applies in both directions.

Make time for bonding

This can be difficult during a hectic lifestyle, but try to create as many opportunities to enjoy yourselves together as possible. Do something fun, exciting and different whenever you can. This doesn’t just help with mood swing related problems, but it makes for a healthier and happier relationship overall.


Exercise not only releases feel-good endorphins, but it’s also a fantastic way to channel any anger or frustration into something good for your body. Try walking, jogging, or even boxing with bags and pads if you really want to get bottled-up emotions out of your system!

Finally, remember that mood swings are normal and will occur from time to time. They happen to everyone, hormonal and non-hormonal, in men and in women. However, the one aspect you do have control over is how you channel your emotions and who you direct them towards.

By using the above methods, and also acknowledging how you would feel if the roles were reversed, you can ensure that symptoms of your mood swings are minimised, and that your relationship doesn’t take the brunt of any negative emotions.